
A great example of compassion and going the extra mile to make a difference in people’s lives.

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A great example of compassion and going the extra mile to make a difference in people’s lives.



(Tom: I think people are best studied directly, rather than studying rats to learn about people. For instance it can be observed that most drug addiction comes from trying to overcome physical or spiritual pain, of which boredom is only a small factor. Nevertheless, some interesting conclusions.)
The first experiment was called “Universe-25”. 4 mice were placed in a mouse paradise, where there was unlimited food and drink and there was no danger at all. In such conditions, mice began to reproduce very quickly. When the number of mice reached 600, competition appeared between the “old” and “new” generations. There were the first “rejected” mice, which got from the others. Males became more passive and females became more aggressive. The population is slowly shrinking. Over time, there appeared handsome males who stopped fighting, fighting for females, they only ate, drank and slept. Such males followed by single females who stopped giving birth, and the rest began to kill cubs. Mice began to practice homosexuality and cannibalism. As a result, 18 months after the experiment began, the last inhabitant of the mouse civilization died. The most interesting thing is that the experiment was called “Universe-25”, because the experiment was conducted 25 times and always ended equally – tragically.ConclusionIn ideal conditions, when the body does not need to use complex behavioral functions for survival, “death of the spirit” occurs – the degradation that inevitably leads to the “death of body”. Thus, general or personal happiness cannot be the goal of life, it is only a byproduct. Only movement and development as processes is the meaning of life.Second experimentThe second experiment was conducted on rats. When rats were immersed in conditions of stress, danger and conflict, they began to get sick and quickly died. When rats were given only positive emotions in the form of a comfortable life devoid of negative components, they also got sick and died, but a little later (the results of the previous experiment are confirmed). It has been scientifically calculated that the ratio of positive and negative emotions should be 3 to 1. In such conditions, a living creature feels comfortable and lives longer.ConclusionDefeat, pain, loss, setbacks, stress are an integral part of life without which life is impossible. What is sane to watch tomorrow? This means to understand that in addition to good events, there will also be bad ones, and this is necessary for human development. But it is better that the proportions of positive and negative in life should be 3 to 1.The third experiment clearly demonstrated a clear hierarchy in the rat world. 6 rats were placed in a box that had one exit leading into the pool. The pool led to food. As a result, the rats were divided into 4 groups: 2 leaders, 2 known, 1 loner and 1 rejected. Famous people swam for food and gave food to the presenters (after beating), only after the presenters ate, the famous people ate. A lone woman was getting her own food and was able to stand up for herself. The rejected one was offended by everyone, and he ate on garbage. The experiment was conducted 20 times and each time the results were the same – divided into 4 groups. At the same time, even if all 6 rats leading or loners, known or rejected, were placed in the box, again the division of roles took place.ConclusionThere is always hierarchy in society, human equality is a utopia. If you don’t like your social role, fight for your place in the sun, including the option of changing the society. Happiness is being comfortable with your social role in life.The fourth experiment has proven that addiction can be controlled. 20 rats were placed in a park, which had various walks, tunnels, wheels, houses, swimming pool, long walkways and lots of food. The other 20 rats were kept in traditional cages. The first and second groups were given 2 drinks: one with ordinary water, and the other with sweetened drug solution. The inhabitants of the park drank only water. Even if one of the rats drank water with a drug, they were not addicted, they still preferred to drink regular water. In turn, the cage rats quickly became addicted to the drug. After a while, the rats changed their places. Caged amusement park rats quickly switched to drugs. And the rats that were placed in the park began to drink regular water more.ConclusionAddictions come to life from monotony. If your life is bright, interesting, you are always in motion and creative search, then you will not need drugs, alcohol, or other addictions. You will still be euphoria from your own life. Escape from routine and boredom, create an interesting life filled with travel, vivid events and interesting projects. Perhaps this is the meaning of life.More data is available in this film.The Mouse Utopia Experiments | Down the Rabbit Hole
I saw this quote from one of America’s founding fathers, who well foresaw future problems, and thought to share it with you:
“Our Constitution was made only for a moral and religious people. It is wholly inadequate to the government of any other.” – John Adams
Over the last 75 years America’s religious influence and moral standards have been under relentless attack.
You get a group like psychiatry who come along with the express purpose of destroying the moral fibre of the citizen so they can have unfettered reign over all for the sole puropose of destruction and you can clearly see the source of the problem. If this strikes you as a strange statement then you are uninformed as to psychiatry’s intent and actions. Let me share with you Brock Chisholm’s statement from 75 years ago so you can better understand the source of the degradation this civilization. It has nothing to do with guns and everything to do with the person holding them. Just as accidents are not caused by cars they are caused by drivers.
“The reinterpretation and eventual eradication of the concept of right and wrong are that belated objectives of nearly all Psychotherapy.” – Brock Chisholm
“To achieve world government, it is necessary to remove from the minds of men, their individualism, loyalty to family traditions, national patriotism, and religious dogmas.” – Brock Chisholm
In closing, if you have strayed from the fold, reconnect with your Church. This is not plug for any particular Church, I don’t care what Church you were in, if you have stopped going, reconnect. Religion, not science, was the greatest civilizing influence this planet enjoyed. That’s why it is under so much attack from those who would destroy this civilization.
Of course there will be those who denounce the harms done by various members of religions, and rightly so, but don’t let their harms stop you from creating a better group! You are more powerful and influential than for which you give yourself credit!

She was so little and exhausted, that she forgot her last name. She lost a whole family; mother, grandmother, elder brother…
A special group of skinny girls found her – they were going from apartment to apartment during a terrible blockade winter looking for children whose parents had died or were dying…
This is how they discovered Lenochka and could evacuate her. She didn’t remember being carried across the ice with other children in a shaking truck, she didn’t remember getting to the orphanage; she was little. Like a skinny midget with a big head on a thin neck…
And she refused to eat anymore. This is what happens with dystrophy. She was laying in bed or sitting in a chair by the stove. She was getting hot. And she kept her mouth shut. They thought Lenochka would die. Many children died already during the evacuation; severe exhaustion and no strength to live and eat. And to play. And to breathe…
One-legged topper, war veteran uncle Kolja, about twenty years old, unpacked a doll from an old towel. Somehow he cut it, folded it, sewn it and it became an ugly doll. He drew the doll’s eyes and mouth with an indelible pencil. And a crooked nose.
He gave a doll to Lenochka and seriously said:
“You, Lenochka, cradle the doll. And teach her to eat well! You are now a mommy doll. Take good care of her. “
And this Lenochka suddenly grabbed a doll and pressed it together. She began to pet her with thin hands. At dinner, she fed the doll porridge and whispered something loving to her. And in the end, she ate porridge and a piece of bread herself…
And so Lenochka slept with the doll and warmed her by the stove, hugged her, and got upset because of her. Because of an ugly doll made of an old towel with painted eyes …
The girl has survived. Because she couldn’t die; she had to take care of the doll, you know?
HAVING SOMEONE TO TAKE CARE OF IS A HUGE LIFE FOR SOME PEOPLE.
For people like this girl was. Who later became a nurse and lived a long life. And her hands were always busy. And she had a heart full of love.



Yvonne Ator writes:
My friend Kerri Grote died this morning. While I am still processing, I wanted to share the words she left to be read upon her passing. Life is short. I hope they bring you perspective, inspiration and healing like they did for me. R.I.P Kerri. I love you.
“If you’re reading this, this fu$king brain cancer probably got me.
But let me be crystal clear while I’m able: I did not ”lose a battle” against cancer. This is a ridiculous, steamy pile of horse shit that society has dumped on cancer patients. Western medicine, and Western culture, especially, is so uncomfortable talking about death that instead it created this “battle” analogy that basically shames people who die from cancer.
News flash: None of us gets out alive from this rodeo called life.
There is no shame in dying from cancer – or any serious illness. And it doesn’t need to be a battle. It’s a transition that each of us will go through. I was asked by a shaman, whom I spoke to after my second brain surgery, “Are you running towards life or running away from death?”
Whoa! That got my attention.
There’s a BIG difference. I got it wrong more often than not.
Don’t let fear fuel your choices. Live fearlessly. Run TOWARDS life. Don’t worry about what people will think. Trust me, it doesn’t matter.
Focus on you. Be true to yourself. Be your own best friend. People who tell you you’re selfish are not your people. If the voice in your head says these unkind things, get a new voice. Honor your mental health and seek out a good therapist with the same vigor you’d search for a romantic partner.
Speaking of, be intentional about cultivating friendships that lift you up. As those friendships grow and change, don’t overlook them while you search for that “great love of your life.” (No, I’m not suggesting you sleep with your bestie. But you do you!)
Another unhelpful message that we get from society is that we need a “love of our life,” as a romantic partner.
Single and childless when I was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer, I looked around my life and came up sputtering and sobbing from the wave of grief washed over me. I thought I’d be doing this alone… no husband, no kids, no “great love.”
How wrong I was. At the first appointment with my neuro oncologists, one of the nurses diligently hauled in chair after chair for the great loves of my life who came with me that horrible day and many days after that.
I sat and listened while the doctor explained the 12-month treatment plan, focusing on my breathing, then looked around the room…. filled with great loves of my life: incredible women friends whom I had met at various stages of my life.
Surround yourself with people who contradict that unkind voice, people who see your light, and remind you who you are: an amazing soul.
Learn how to receive these reflections from your people. Because they are speaking the Truth.
Love yourself, no matter how weird and silly it might feel. Every morning, give yourself a hug before your feet hit the floor. Look deeply into your eyes in a mirror. Say to yourself, out loud, “I trust you.” That voice in your head might say you’re a dork. Ignore it.
As I prepare to leave this body and embark on this mysterious journey of my soul, I hope these observations from my deathbed are somehow useful.
What I know, deep in my bones, is that learning to love myself has led me to be able to say this: I’m so proud of how I lived.
May you, dear reader, feel the same when you head out on your soul journey, too. Until then, enjoy the ride. And always eat dessert first, especially if there’s pie!”