The cockroach theory for self-development.
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew in and sat on a lady.
She started screaming out of fear.
With a face stricken with panic and a trembling voice, she began to jump, both her hands desperately attempting to rid herself of the cockroach. Her reaction spread like wildfire, causing everyone in her group to also become panicky.
After a valiant effort, the lady succeeded in pushing the cockroach away, but to everyone’s dismay, it landed on another lady in the group. Now, it was the turn of the second lady in the group to carry on the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement I wondered, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
I decided it was not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturb me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
Reactions are instinctive whereas responses are well thought out.
A beautiful way to understand life.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
I understood I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The happy person is not happy because everything in his life is right.
He is happy because his attitude is right towards everything in his life!
credits to: Divya Bhrambhatt