The Day My Grandma Gave Me Words That Quieted My Fear Forever

Wise Words From Grandma

I was about eleven years old the day my grandmother said something that quietly rearranged how I see the world.
It was an ordinary school day. Nothing dramatic. Just the usual mile-long walk from school, past familiar houses, down the road that led to my grandparents’ farmhouse. Most days, I’d burst through the door talking about class or homework or whatever small thing felt big at that age.
But that day was different.
I walked in quieter than usual. Slower. Carrying something heavy I didn’t yet have words for.
Grandma noticed immediately.
She didn’t ask what was wrong. She didn’t rush me or fill the silence. She simply took my coat, led me into the kitchen, and did what she always did when someone needed comfort without knowing it yet.
She made hot chocolate.
She set out cookies.
She sat down and waited.
Halfway through my drink, the truth finally slipped out.
“I thought this girl at school liked me,” I said, staring into my cup. “But today she said something mean. I don’t think anyone at school likes me.”
For an eleven-year-old, that felt like the whole world collapsing. Like being quietly rejected by life itself.
Grandma didn’t jump in with reassurances. She took a slow sip of her coffee, the way she always did when she was choosing her words carefully. Then she looked at me, soft but steady, and said:
“Totty,” she began.
She always called me Totty instead of Kathy.
“Totty, a few people in life will really like you. Some people won’t like you at all. But most people?”
She paused.
“They won’t think much about you either way.”
I remember blinking at her, surprised.
“They might notice your shoes. Or your smile. Or say hello in passing,” she continued. “But once you’re out of sight, they’ll go right back to their own lives.”
Even at eleven, it landed.
She wasn’t being unkind. She was being honest in the gentlest way possible. She was telling me that one person’s words didn’t define my worth. That most people aren’t judging us as harshly as we imagine. That they’re usually just busy surviving their own days.
Then she added something that stayed with me even longer.
“If someone walks by and doesn’t say hello, it probably isn’t personal. Maybe they’re distracted. Maybe they’re worried about something you can’t see. And if someone is rude when you haven’t done anything wrong,” she said, “there’s a good chance they’re carrying something heavy themselves.”
In other words: not everything is about you. And that’s not a bad thing.
That moment settled into me quietly. It didn’t erase hurt forever. But it gave me somewhere to return.
Even now, years later, when I feel left out.
When someone’s silence stings.
When words land harder than they should.
I go back to that kitchen.
To the hot chocolate.
To my grandma’s calm voice.
And I remind myself:
If I didn’t do anything wrong, then it probably has more to do with them than me.
That small piece of wisdom has softened a lot of hard days.
And I’ve never forgotten it.

Aluminium In Brain

Aluminium In Brain

A study published in the journal Nature compared the aluminum content in human brain tissue of people with Alzheimer’s disease, familial Alzheimer’s disease, autism spectrum disorder and multiple sclerosis with healthy controls. According to the authors, “detailed statistical analyses showed that aluminum was significantly increased in each of these groups compared to control tissues.” They go on to mention that:
“We have confirmed previous conclusions that the aluminum content of brain tissue in Alzheimer’s disease, autism spectrum disorder and multiple sclerosis is significantly elevated. Further research is required to understand the role played by high levels of aluminum in the aetiology of human neurodegenerative and neurodevelopmental disease.”
The researchers used tissue from twenty control brains of healthy individuals to compare against the brain tissue of people who have had a diagnosis of the neurodegenerative conditions mentioned. The fact that all disease groups had significantly higher brain aluminum content than the control group is quite concerning. That being said, it’s not proof that aluminum actually plays a direct role in each of these diseases. More research would need to be done on this topic.

Ultra-processed Is Fromulated To Be Addictive

I received this in a newsletter from Nathan Crane:

Here’s something wild:

People ate over 500 extra calories a day on an ultra-processed diet. (Hall et al., 2019 – PubMed)

When food is designed to be extra tempting, your body can end up eating a lot more without you deciding to.

Not because you’re lazy.
Not because you lack willpower.

But the food was designed to override your body’s natural signals.

So if you’ve ever felt like your cravings are out of control, it’s not always a character flaw.

It’s sometimes chemistry.

Insulin Resistance

Blood Sugar Responses

After adding the previous post to my newsletter, blog and social media I thought to create a chapter on Insulin Resistance from the various references to it in my book. After all, if blood sugar spikes and insulin resistance are so destructive to our health, it pays to point up the factors we can implement to reduce our exposure to them. This is the result. If you would like access to a compendium of my over 17 years of gathering health tips, here is the link to my book:  https://howtolivethehealthiestlife.com/

(Also read the preceding chapter Glycemic Index for more important data on insulin resistance.)

Frequent blood sugar spikes force the pancreas to release more insulin repeatedly. Over time, this constant demand can cause insulin-producing cells to wear out or stop working properly. This contributes to insulin resistance and reduced insulin production—both key drivers of Type 2 diabetes.

Type 2 diabetes develops gradually, with insulin resistance and inflammation starting decades before symptoms appear.

High blood sugar and insulin levels dramatically speed up the aging process and are primary risk factors for cancer, heart disease, diabetes, Alzheimer’s, reduced immunity and more.

Fasting Insulin Level

According to Dr Mercola, your fasting insulin level should be under 3. The higher it is the more at risk you are for a bunch of diseases, type 2 diabetes being a major one.

Antibiotics

A primary contributor to insulin resistance and diabetes is dysfunctional gut barrier. This can be caused by a single course of antibiotics.

Artificial Sweeteners

Research has repeatedly shown that artificial sweeteners promote insulin resistance and related health problems just like regular sugar does, including cardiovascular disease, stroke and Alzheimer’s disease.

Ashwagandha

Ashwagandha is an adaptogen, meaning it helps your body adapt to challenges by balancing your immune system, metabolism and hormonal systems. The root reduces cortisol levels, restores insulin sensitivity and helps to stabilize your mood.

Body Weight

Mitri noted that excess weight is tied to inflammation, “Someone with a higher BMI may have more difficulty responding to insulin,” she said, noting that this can worsen insulin resistance.
From: https://www.theepochtimes.com/health/french-fries-versus-baked-potatoes-one-raises-diabetes-risk-20-percent-the-other-doesnt-5897553

Butter

And this presentation is very informative and enlightening on the benefits butter has even in what many would consider excessive daily amounts. Weight remained constant, glucose and insulin levels went DOWN on 10 spoons of butter a day!
From: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhNGRB14TTE

Carbohydrates

If you were to elect one single bad guy to target right now, day one, it would have to be simple carbohydrates. Because every starch turns into sugar as soon as it hits your blood stream carbs are just sugar in disguise. They set the stage for insulin resistance.

Chromium

The mineral chromium enhances insulin activity playing a major role in the regulation of insulin release and its effects on carbohydrate, protein and lipid metabolism. Chromium also assists in metabolism of carbohydrates.

Diets

…all of the diets listed require that sugar and ultra processed foods be avoided. That grains are either eliminated or severely curtailed. Which means that the “western habitual diet” was least beneficial at improving a lipids profile, insulin resistance and inflammatory markers.

Want to get healthy? Stop eating ultra processed foods, sugar and excess grains.

From: https://doi.org/10.3390/nu15010076

Interesterified Fats

Due to all the bad press trans fats have received of late, food manufacturers in the US are replacing trans fats with interesterified fats. Similar to the hydrogenating of vegetables oils, this produces hard fats as well as molecules that do not exist in nature. They contain chemical residues and other hazardous waste products full of free radicals that cause cell damage.

“Studies show that interesterified fat raises your blood glucose and depresses insulin production. These conditions are common precursors to diabetes, and can present an even more immediate danger if you already have the disease.

“After only four weeks consuming these fats, study volunteers’ blood glucose levels rose sharply – by 20 percent. This is a much worse result than seen with trans fats.

“Natural vegetable oils that have been processed in any way will create problems for your body at the cellular level. These fats are no longer in their natural state, and your body doesn’t know how to handle them. Your system will try to make use of them and in the process, these fats end up in cell membranes and other locations where they can wreak havoc with your health.“

From http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2009/12/24/Trans-Fats-Can-Be-Deadly.aspx

Food Sequencing

Read the chapter Food Sequencing to learn about the benefits of eating veggies and protein before starches.

French Fries

“French fries are typically deep-fried at very high temperatures, which can produce harmful compounds,” Mousavi said. One such compound is acrylamide, which is formed during browning and linked to inflammation, insulin resistance, and blood vessel damage.

Keto

While short-term ketogenic diets may aid weight loss, new research links prolonged ketosis to liver stress, impaired insulin secretion, and cardiovascular problems.
From: https://nexusnewsfeed.com/article/food-cooking/studies-raise-questions-about-keto-s-impact-on-liver-and-heart-health/

Malnutrition and Hunger

When your body lacks the nutrition it needs, it sends hunger signals to your brain. These signals make you crave sugary, starchy junk foods that rapidly convert to blood sugar which stimulates insulin. Excess blood glucose is stored in the liver and muscles but they can only hold so much of it so the rest is stored as… …that’s right – body fat!

The solution are two-fold:
1. Don’t starve yourself so you fall victim to cravings.
2. Eat high nutrition foods, not empty calories.

Maltodextrin

The Carbohydrate That’s More Dangerous Than Sugar.

Glycemic Index:
Sugar…65
High Fructose Corn Syrup…87
Glucose…100
Maltodextrin…136

A Carbohydrate not classified as sugar, but acts like sugar in a much more deadly way because it spikes insulin….

Maltodextrin is a type of carbohydrate, but it undergoes intense processing. It comes in the form of a white powder from GMO rice, corn, wheat, tapioca or potato starch.

Maltodextrin is a polysaccharide derived from starch hydrolysis and used as a thickener and filler in processed food. On labels, it does not have to be listed as sugar or added sugar, even though it has a higher glycemic index & causes blood sugar to spike and contributes to insulin resistance.

Labeled not only as Maltodextrin, but also Modified Food Starch, Modified Corn Starch and within the “blanket term” Natural Flavors.

Food manufacturers add the powder to a wide range of processed foods such as artificial sweeteners, baked goods, yogurt, beer, nutrition bars, weight loss supplements, cereals, meal replacement shakes, low fat and reduced calorie products, condiments, sauces, spice mixes, salad dressings, chips, pie fillings and snack foods.

Starches

Some great data on how to do one of the most effective things you can do to reduce your insulin spikes.

Cook your rice, potatoes and pasta with a teaspoon of coconut oil, then cool it for 12 hours (24 is better) hours before reheating.

This simple process can increase the resistant starch content of rice by up to 10 times! The coconut oil interacts with the starch molecules, making them more resistant to digestion, while the cooling process further crystallizes the starch.

The body cannot process resistant starch so it becomes a probiotic, feeds the gut bacteria and more butyrate gets produced. This is great for reduced colon cancer risk.

From: https://nexusnewsfeed.com/article/food-cooking/the-shocking-truth-about-white-rice-and-how-to-make-it-healthy-again/ and to view Dr Mandell’s video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cxTIt43exM0

HOW TO BLOCK GLUTAMINE — CANCER’S SECOND FUEL

How To Block Glutamine

Cancer survives by adapting. When sugar is limited, it switches to glutamine.  Science shows:
• Tumors rely on glucose + glutamine (Front Cell Dev Biol)
• Glutamine fuels cancer stem cells (Cancer Metabolism)
• Ketones cannot be efficiently used by cancer cells

Terrain-supportive strategies:
Balanced protein (not excess)

Ketogenic / low-glycemic nutrition

Anti-glutamine foods (sprouts, matcha, garlic, mushrooms)
 Intermittent fasting
Stress reduction
Starve the fuels — don’t starve the body.

Certain foods naturally interfere with glutamine metabolism:
Broccoli sprouts — sulforaphane downregulates glutamine transport

Green tea / Matcha — EGCG inhibits glutamine-dependent pathways

Garlic — sulfur compounds disrupt glutamine signaling

Medicinal mushrooms — reduce cancer stem cell reliance on glutamine

Lemon peel — polyphenols interfere with metabolic signaling