I just had a major realisation on something I have been doing wrong all my life on the subject of communication.
There is a particular person I interact with who is very opinionated. When I discuss a topic with this person they will come up with examples to support their opinion.
I would disprove the validity or applicability of the data but the opinion would not alter. Obviously this dicappointed and frustrated me because I was “unable to change their mind”.
My big realisation was that THEIR MIND DID NOT CHANGE BECAUSE THEIR OPINION WAS NOT BASED ON THE DATA THEY WERE TENDERING! The invention of the data was as a rationale for their opinion came AFTER their opinion. So disproving their data did NOTHING to alter their opinion! The tendered data was too late on the time track.