He Complained About Everything

He Complained About Everything

I was standing in a long line at the grocery store — one of those endless, slow-moving ones that test your patience. I sighed, checked my watch, grumbled about how people never hurry up. All I could think about was how much time I was losing.
Then, someone joined the line behind me. At first, I didn’t look back. But I heard a man’s voice — soft, steady, calm.
“Okay, son,” he said, “there are two people walking on the right. The lady in front of us is holding flowers. There’s a man wearing a Santa hat. And over there—someone’s buying a turkey.”
He kept talking like that — describing everything, moment by moment.
I frowned at first, thinking, why’s he narrating all this? But then I turned. And I understood.
The boy beside him — maybe ten, maybe eleven — had his eyes closed. No. Not closed. Just different. He was blind.
And that man… that father… was giving his son the world — one word at a time.
He described every sound, every smile, every rustle of a shopping bag like it was a story worth telling. And the boy? He giggled softly. He saw everything through his father’s voice.
The beeping of the scanner became music. The chatter of people became color. The world that most of us take for granted — that little boy saw it clearer than I ever had.
I stood there, silent. My complaints about time, about the line, about my life — suddenly felt so small.
When they reached the counter, the father said, “There’s a lady ahead of us with shiny red apples, and the man next to her has chocolate — maybe we’ll get one too, what do you think?”
The boy laughed. “I think chocolate always wins, Dad.”
And they both laughed together.
It was such a simple sound. But it felt holy.
As I walked out later, I glanced back one last time. The boy’s tiny hand was in his father’s, his face glowing with happiness — not because he could see the world, but because his father never let him miss it.
That day, I stopped complaining.
Because I realized something — There are people who can’t see the world, and still, they live it better than those of us who can.
Sometimes, you don’t need eyes to see. You just need someone who loves you enough… to describe the world like it’s the most beautiful thing there is.

An Ode To Genuine Producers

The man in the three-thousand-dollar suit looked at my hands and asked if I was there to fix the air conditioning.
My hands are thick. The knuckles are scarred from busted wrenches, and there’s a permanent line of grease under my fingernails that no amount of scrubbing can remove. I looked at his hands. They were smooth, pale, with a heavy gold watch on the wrist.
“No, sir,” I said, my voice too deep for the quiet high school library. “I’m here for Career Day. I’m Jason’s dad.”
His smile was polite, but his eyes said it all. You?
My name is Mike. I’m 58 years old. For thirty of those years, I’ve been a long-haul trucker. I’m a widower, a veteran, and a father. My son Jason is a good kid, a senior at this shiny suburban school where I feel about as welcome as a mudflap in a ballroom.
This school… this was my late wife Sarah’s world. She was a teacher here. She loved these hallways, loved these kids. When she passed, this school set up a scholarship in her name. And when my son Jason, God bless him, told his homeroom teacher I was a “logistics and supply chain expert” and that I should speak, I couldn’t say no. It felt like I’d be letting Sarah down.
So I showed up. I parked my F-150—the one I still haven’t paid off—between a brand-new German sedan and a luxury electric SUV. I walked in wearing my best jeans, a clean flannel shirt, and my work boots.
The library was packed with the “A-Team” of parents. Dr. Chen, a neurosurgeon, had a slick video presentation about brain mapping. Mr. Davies, the man with the expensive watch, was next. He ran some kind of investment firm and talked about “leveraging assets” and “Q4 projections.” He used the word “synergy” five times.
I saw the kids’ eyes glazing over. I saw the other parents nodding, pretending they understood. I saw my son Jason slouching in the back row, trying to become invisible.
I felt a tap on my shoulder. It was the principal. “Mr. Riley? You’re next.”
I walked to the front. There was no PowerPoint. No video. Just me. I could feel the weight of their judgment. The whispers from the moms in their yoga pants. “Is he the janitor?” “Whose dad is that?”
I gripped the wooden podium. It was the same one Sarah used to stand at during assemblies. I took a deep breath.
“Good morning,” I said. My voice echoed. “My name is Mike Riley. I’m not a doctor or a banker. I never finished college. I’m a truck driver.”
The silence in the room changed. It went from polite attention to cold, awkward curiosity. The finance guy was already checking his phone.
“My son calls me a ‘logistics expert,’ which is a nice way of saying I drive a very big truck for a very long time. And I guess I’m here to tell you why that matters.”
I looked at Dr. Chen. “Ma’am, with all due respect, what you do is incredible. You save lives. But that machine you use for brain mapping… it didn’t just appear in the hospital. The plastic, the wires, the microchips… they all came from a different factory. They were all put on a pallet, loaded onto a truck, and driven—probably 2,000 miles—by someone like me.”
I turned to the finance guy. “Sir, your graphs are very impressive. But those numbers… they represent ‘things.’ Corn from Iowa. Steel from Ohio. Computers from a port in California. This country… it’s not a website. It’s not an algorithm. It’s a real, physical place. And the only thing connecting all of it… is the highway. And the men and women who refuse to stop driving on it.”
The room was dead quiet.
“In March 2020,” I said, “when the whole world shut down, you were all told to stay home. You learned how to bake bread. You did puzzles. We were told to keep driving.
I was out there. The highways were empty, like a post-apocalyptic movie. There was no one. Just me and 40,000 pounds of… toilet paper. Yeah, I was the guy hauling the toilet paper. You can laugh. But my dispatcher called me, crying, because her elderly mother couldn’t find any. And I drove 18 hours straight, through three states, because I knew that if I didn’t, the shelves would stay empty. You can’t Zoom a five-pound bag of potatoes. You can’t download a bottle of hand sanitizer.”
I saw a few teachers nodding. The kids were leaning forward.
“Two winters ago,” I went on, my voice getting thicker, “I was locked down on I-80 in Wyoming. A blizzard. Shut the whole state down. I sat in my cab for 72 hours. It was 20 below zero. I couldn’t sleep. Not because of the cold, but because of the sound. The hum.
The hum of the refrigeration unit on my trailer. I was hauling a full load of insulin. Life-saving medicine for diabetics. If that reefer unit stopped… if I ran out of fuel… if I just gave up and went to a shelter… that entire load, millions of dollars worth, would be worthless. But it wasn’t the money I thought about. I thought about the grandmother in Denver, the kid in Omaha, waiting for that little vial.
So I sat there. I ate cold rations. I checked the fuel and the temperature gauge every 30 minutes. For three days. I served this country for 12 years in the Army. I thought that was the hardest thing I’d ever do. I was wrong. That blizzard was harder.”
I looked for my son. He was sitting up straight now. His eyes were locked on me.
A kid in the front row, wearing a “Future CEO” t-shirt, raised his hand. “But, like, don’t you regret it? Not going to college? My dad says people who do jobs like that just… didn’t have other options.”
The air was sucked out of the room. I heard the principal give a little gasp.
I looked at that boy. I wasn’t angry. “Son,” I said, “I respect your path. But when the power goes out in a storm, you can’t read your textbooks in the dark. You wait for a lineman. When your toilet backs up, your business degree can’t fix the pipes. You call a plumber. And when you go to the store, you expect food to be there. You expect the lights to be on. You expect the world to work.
We are the ‘other options.’ We’re the people who make your world work. Don’t you ever, for one second, think we’re not proud of that.”
A new voice cut through the silence. It wasn’t mine.
“My mom’s a dispatcher.”
A skinny kid near the back stood up. He was shaking. “My… my mom. She works for a shipping company. She’s the one who answers the calls. People yell at her all day. They… they call her stupid when a package is late.”
His voice cracked, and tears were rolling down his face. “But she’s the one who finds a driver… like you, sir… when a hospital calls and says they’re out of supplies. She’s the one who works all night, on Christmas, moving dots on a screen to make sure the medicine gets there. She’s not stupid.”
He looked right at the “Future CEO” kid.
“Your dad is wrong. My mom is a hero. And so is he.”
The room was so quiet you could hear a pin drop. The finance guy put his phone down. The neurosurgeon was looking at her own hands.
And my son, Jason, stood up. He walked from the back of the room, right up to the front, and stood next to me. He put his arm around my waist. He didn’t say anything. He didn’t have to.
I don’t remember what happened after that. I think some people clapped. The principal shook my hand, and her eyes were wet.
On the drive home, Jason was quiet. Finally, he just said, “Dad… I never knew about the insulin. That was… wow.”
“It’s just the job, son.”
“No, it’s not,” he said. “It’s not just a job.”
Here’s the truth: This country isn’t built on spreadsheets or algorithms alone. It’s built on calluses. It’s built on sweat and steel. It’s built on the backs of people who show up, 24/7, in blizzards and pandemics, to keep the lights on and the shelves full.
We are not invisible. We are the foundation.
Next time you meet a kid, don’t just ask, “Where are you going to college?” Ask them, “What do you want to build?” And if they say, “I’m learning to weld,” or “I’m going to be a plumber,” or “I’m gonna drive trucks like my dad,” you look them in the eye and you tell them, “This country needs you. We are all counting on you.”

The Hunger For Meaning

Bushman and Laurens van der Post

The Bushmen of the Kalahari speak of two kinds of hunger.

The Little Hunger is for food — the fire in the belly that must be fed to stay alive.

But then there is the Great Hunger.

The hunger for meaning.

The hunger that lives deeper than the stomach — in the chest, in the bones, in the quiet space behind your eyes.
It’s the ache to belong. To matter. To know why you are here.

Laurens van der Post, the man pictured here, spent years among the Bushmen — listening, learning, and trying to understand what we’ve forgotten in the modern world.

He wrote that the most dangerous thing in life isn’t sadness — it’s emptiness.

The slow, bitter erosion that comes from living without meaning.

We chase money. Status. Comfort.

We chase happiness as if it were the point.

But happiness is fleeting.

Meaning endures.

Because once you’re doing something that truly matters — something your soul recognizes as right — it doesn’t matter whether you feel good all the time.

You feel whole.

You feel connected.

You feel like you belong to something larger than yourself.
And in that belonging, even hardship becomes sacred.

This photo isn’t just a meeting between two men.
It’s a moment between two ways of being — one that remembers we are not only bodies to be fed, but spirits to be fulfilled.

Maybe that’s the real hunger we’ve been trying to feed all along.

Here are some tools to help you and those for whom you care to reveal your basic purpose in life: https://www.tomgrimshaw.com/tomsblog/?p=37862

The Fifth Element

The Fifth Element

During the filming of The Fifth Element (1997), there was a moment when the wild colors, the neon chaos, and the outrageous sci-fi humor fell away — and what remained was something unexpectedly vulnerable.

It happened while shooting one of Leeloo’s quietest scenes — the moment she looks at images of humanity’s wars and whispers, “Why… why is it worth saving?”

Milla Jovovich sat on the set, futuristic armor half-removed, exhaustion in her eyes from hours of stunts and alien language rehearsals. The crew expected another quirky take, another burst of Leeloo’s fierce innocence. Instead, she looked shaken.

Luc Besson approached her gently.

“Too intense?” he asked.

Jovovich shook her head. “No… it’s just real,” she whispered. “She’s learning what humans do to each other. And she still has to love them.”

Bruce Willis was nearby, silent. He’d spent most of the shoot being the unshakeable hero, the cool presence in a world gone mad. But in that moment, seeing Jovovich tremble, he knelt beside her and quietly said,
“Love is hard. But that’s why it matters.”

They rolled. Leeloo’s tears weren’t movie tears — they came slow, heavy, honest. Willis didn’t “act” opposite her; he just listened, his expression softening, the bravado gone.

Crew members later said it was the most human moment in a film filled with explosions, opera battles, and floating taxis.

When the take ended, Jovovich exhaled shakily and murmured,
“Saving the world isn’t the hard part. Believing it deserves to be saved — that’s the fight.”

Willis smiled, gentle — not as Korben Dallas, not as the action star, but as a man who understood tired hope.
“We save each other. One moment at a time.”

That day, The Fifth Element wasn’t wild sci-fi or comic-book spectacle.

It became a story about fragile goodness, about choosing love in a world that often forgets it — and about how sometimes the bravest thing a hero can do… is believe in humanity anyway.

Kris Kristofferson

Kris Kristofferson

Before he wrote songs that made people cry, Kris Kristofferson had already lived three lives.

At Pomona College, he was a football star, Golden Gloves boxer, and poet. A professor saw something in him — told him to apply for the Rhodes Scholarship. He did. And he won.

At Oxford, Kris studied literature among stone halls and quiet libraries. Somewhere between Yeats and Dylan Thomas, he realized poems could live in music. Songs, he decided, were poetry that people carried in their hearts.

Back home, everyone saw a future professor, maybe even at West Point. He was offered that teaching job — the pinnacle of prestige. But he turned it down. He joined the Army instead, became a helicopter pilot, a captain, and then… walked away from it all.

He packed his duffle bag, moved to Nashville, and started sweeping floors at Columbia Recording Studios. The Rhodes Scholar became a janitor. Between shifts, he wrote songs — scribbling lines on napkins, notebooks, and dreams.

Years passed. Nothing happened. Then one day, Johnny Cash heard “Sunday Mornin’ Comin’ Down.”

And everything changed.

Janis Joplin sang “Me and Bobby McGee.”

Ray Price sang “For the Good Times.”

Sammi Smith sang “Help Me Make It Through the Night.”

Each song carried the same voice — weary, tender, honest. A voice that understood the beauty in being broken.

Soon, the janitor was standing on stage. Then, on film sets. Then, in history.

But Kris Kristofferson’s greatest masterpiece wasn’t a song.
It was the decision to walk away from what was expected — to choose meaning over safety, truth over titles, art over approval.

He could have taught literature at West Point.
Instead, he taught the world how to feel.

Mary Ellen Pleasant

Mary Ellen Pleasant

She poured their tea. She swept their floors. And she listened to every word.
San Francisco, 1850s. The Gold Rush had transformed a sleepy port into a city drunk on sudden wealth. In the grand mansions on Nob Hill, fortunes were made and lost over brandy and cigars.
And in the corner of those rooms, refilling glasses and clearing plates, was a Black woman named Mary Ellen Pleasant.
To the wealthy men talking business, she was furniture. Invisible. Forgettable.
They had no idea she was taking notes.
As they debated which banks were solid, which properties would boom, which ventures were worth risk—Pleasant absorbed everything. She understood something they didn’t: information is power. And she’d been handed it for free.
She started small. A laundry here. A boarding house there. While other women scrubbed floors to survive, Pleasant was building an empire.
She bought restaurants and dairies. She acquired shares in the very banks those wealthy men discussed. When racial barriers blocked her path—and they constantly did—she partnered strategically with Thomas Bell, a white banker who held investments in her name while she made the decisions.
The invisible servant was becoming one of San Francisco’s wealthiest entrepreneurs.
But Pleasant wasn’t building wealth just to have it. She was building it to wield it.
While running her businesses by day, she was funding freedom by night. She supported the Underground Railroad, helping enslaved people escape to freedom. She financed civil rights cases. And when she faced discrimination herself—thrown off a San Francisco streetcar because of her race—she didn’t just complain.
She sued.
In 1868, she won a landmark case that desegregated San Francisco’s public transportation. Not through protests or petitions, but through the legal system—funded by the fortune she’d built from overheard conversations.
Her power made people deeply uncomfortable.
How dare this Black woman have money? Influence? The audacity to fight back?
The newspapers turned on her. They called her a “voodoo queen.” They invented sinister stories. They tried to paint her power as dark magic rather than acknowledge her brilliant mind and business acumen.
Pleasant faced it all with steel in her spine.
“I’d rather be a corpse than a coward,” she said.
And she meant it.
She never apologized for her wealth. Never backed down from her activism. Never pretended to be less than she was to make others comfortable.
Mary Ellen Pleasant understood something profound: real power isn’t just having money. It’s knowing when to be invisible and when to be impossible to ignore.
She spent years listening in silence, building her fortune in shadows. Then she used every dollar of it to fight for a world where people like her wouldn’t have to hide.
You won’t find her in most history textbooks. For generations, her story was deliberately erased—too complicated, too powerful, too inconvenient to the narratives people wanted to tell about who built America and who deserves credit.
But history has a way of surfacing truth.
Mary Ellen Pleasant turned silence into strategy, invisibility into influence, and overheard whispers into a fortune she used to change the world.
She swept their floors. She poured their tea.
And she built an empire they never saw coming.