What we commonly call reality is a composite or agreed upon reality. At the most reductionist level, you and I are only doing what we are doing because we are not choosing to do something else. For instance if you and I decided this society was so far gone it was doomed and we needed to gather people and create a new one, we would be doing that and creating a new paradigm, a la Buckminster Fuller. (Don’t try to alter the current paradigm, create a new one.)