Save This For When Someone Close To You Needs It
When you eat well and exercise, if the dark forces in life drag you down from time to time you have the reserves to drag yourself back up again. Not everyone is endowed with the spiritual, mental and physical reserves you have.
Most likely, this is for them. Save it so it is handy when you need to pass it on.
If you decide to test drive these recommendations yourself I am not to be held responsible for any increased perception of well being or happiness on your part. You did it. You take the credit.
Got a motto for you to help you through this patch: “Look and do rather than think and stew.”
You’ve probably heard the expression, “A problem well stated is a problem half solved.” Well I was talking to someone wanting to get off anti-depressants and it occurred to me that calling feeling down “depression” does not help. It leads one to be open to taking “anti-depressants” which are anything but! They increase suicides!
If instead we call it introverted or “interiorised”, as in, “looking inwards” rather than outwards to the environment, then all of a sudden a solution becomes obvious – extrovert by going for a walk and looking at things!
When you are really, really down, the smallest thing can drive you over the edge, so the most important thing to do is to rapidly raise your tone level above hopeless or apathy. Because this will take you through resentment, hosility, hate, anger and antagonism, some might be evaluative of you and say you have “gotten worse”. Such is not the case because those tones are higher and more survival. Apathy is next to death.
Someone who means you harm specialises in invalidation and making nothing of you and your good works and making mountains out of any minor thing you do wrong and molehills out of what they do wrong. They do whatever they can to introvert you.
Those who mean you no good will try to collapse your space. To introvert you. To make nothing of you. They will overtly or covertly criticize you, your products or your goals and ambitions.
Looking outwards extroverts you. The way you reverse their harm is to go for a walk and look at things until you feel better. If not safe to do so, just walk around your home looking at things until you feel better. If you can’t walk, just look around at things, one after another until you feel better.
So takes walks. Long walks. Morning and night. Look at things. Lots of things. Throw sticks for a dog. Skip stones across the water. If you are not physically capable of throwing, where it is legal, spit. Looking outwards and throwing things extroverts the attention and raise your cause level.
I hope you are getting the idea. Thinking about things is not the way to stay up. Looking extroverts your attention and makes you happier.
Stop watching or listening to the news or reading newspapers. Stop reading the papers and watching the news. They are chaos merchants. They make more money the more chaos they spread, the more they make the environment dangerous to you. A being is as well off as he is dangerous to the environment and as bad off as the environment is dangerous to him. Look for things that are dangerous to you and work out how you can take the danger out of them.
If you read their papers or watch their news you are paying them with your money and your time. STOP DOING IT! In a month that alone will make you feel a whole bunch better!
Next thing to do is to take charge of your thoughts. Stop thinking black thoughts. Whenever your thoughts start to go there, redirect them. Got for a walk, look at things or get productive..
Next technique to learn is how to reduce the time between when the black thoughts come in and you refocus.
I went through male menopause a few years ago. Yes, there is such a thing. No, it is nowhere near as bad as the girls suffer. I would be trying to survive on 4-5 hours sleep a night. My thinking would take a very black turn middle of the afternoon and when that would happen I eventually learned to stop and say, “OK, I am thinking black thoughts. How much sleep did I have? 4 hours? OK, stop thinking. No good is going to come from trying to think on 4 hours sleep.”
So I developed a motto for those times,
“Don’t think and stew,
Just decide and do!”
Worked a treat. Because production equals morale I could not stay in the thick of the blackness.
Sing. 10 minutes a day. the kind of songs that lift you up and make you feel better.
Get enough rest. Too little sleep can make the world seem a very dark place. If you are not getting enough sleep, make it a priority to correct this. Lack of sleep will kill you faster than most anything. Except breathing. That’s pretty fast.
If sleeping is a problem, make a list of anything and everything that you think about instead of sleeping. Now for each item on that list, give yourself a target of something you can do that will improve that situation. OK, that is your to do list for the next little while.
Breathe. Deeply and slowly. It has a relaxing effect on the body and mind.
Make a conscious and deliberate effort to relax and feel relaxed. Avoid people and things that make you feel tense and worried, powerless and hopeless. Seek out people and activities that validate and empower you.
If you are feeling low you are probably not feeding yourself optimally. Get yourself checked out for any vitamin or mineral deficiencies or toxic overload.
Improve your nutrition. Especially B group vitamins and fish oil/omega 3 fatty acids. Turmeric and magnesium help improve the symptoms of depression.
Now your head is in slightly better shape, make a meal plan for yourself based on what you know is best for your body to eat. This means little to no simple carbs and sugar. Include some “nice to eats” in that so you don’t feel completely restricted. Buy only to your meal plan and stick to it.
OK, that’s your head and your nutrition sorted, now for some more relaxed sleep. Here is a recipe for how to make CalMag. It was formulated for, amongst other things, helping drug addicts not suffer withdrawal symptoms but it has helped many people with sleep, aches and pains and muscle soreness. Most of us are magnesium deficient.
Calcium does not go into solution in the body and is not utilized unless it is in an acid base.
Tests for other uses than drug reactions brought about the means of getting calcium into solution in the body along with magnesium so that the results of both could be achieved. The answer was to add vinegar, which would provide the acidic formula needed.
The result was a solution which proved to be highly effective, named the “Cal-Mag Formula.” [Taken from The “Answers To Drugs” Booklet pg 19]
1 Put 1 level tablespoon (15 ml) of calcium gluconate in a normal-sized glass. Use a measuring spoon not tableware.
2 Add 1/2 level teaspoon (2.5 ml) of magnesium carbonate. Again use a proper measuring spoon.
3 Add 1 tablespoon (15 ml) cider vinegar (at least 5 percent acidity).
4 Stir well.
5 Add 1/2 glass (about 120 ml ) of boiling water and stir until all the powder is dissolved and the liquid is clear.
Note: Place a metal spoon in the glass first to avoid any possibility of the glass cracking from the boiling water.
6 Fill the remainder of the glass with lukewarm or cold water.
Now, closer to home. Is there anyone in your circle of family, friends and work mates who is causing you grief? Invalidating you or your work, making nothing of your accomplishments, telling you what is wrong with you or why things happen to you, always giving you bad news?
Now I could throw you in the 6 foot end of the swimming pool here and tell you that you an immortal, indestructible spiritual being and that nothing can hurt you without you agreeing to be hurt SO STOP BEING SO DAMNED AGREEABLE! Just don’t agree that anything anybody says will have a negative effect on you.
But that is a tall ask unless you are a really bright and exceedingly capable person with a lot of life experience. So let’s start at the paddling end of the pool. For each person who is causing you grief, figure out how you could be slight gentle cause in the situations the two of you cocreate between you.
Next, failed purposes. Make a list of each of the purposes you can think of that you have had that you have given up on.
For each, decide if it is still practical and desirable for you to retain that purpose.
For instance if you have had the purpose to be a ballerina (driven by the desire, let’s say, to inspire people with your aesthetic movements) and you lost both legs in a car accident you might rechannel that purpose to being a choreographer.
One great thing to do is get productive. Do stuff. Physical universe stuff. Production equals morale. Look around and spot something you have been meaning to do and do it. Even just putting on a load of washing or cleaning the dishes is a perfectly valid start.
Complete all the little jobs on your to do or pending list. Every job you finish gives you back some attention units. The more attention units you have in present time, the better you will feel.
Wring or write those with whom you’ve been meaning to catch up.
Help people. Whatever you can do. Even if it’s just helping in a soup kitchen, Showing someone the way when they are lost. Go out of your way to look for ways to contribute and help people. Helping others gives meaning to your life and makes you feel better about yourself.
Do what is on your purpose line. Whether it’s painting, writing, sewing, knitting, singing, cooking, carving – do what is on your purpose line.
Make amends for your misdeeds. Dredge up people to whom you have said an unkind word or done an unkind deed or done something that in hindsight you wish you hadn’t. Each handled misdeed will take some burden off you.
Spend 10 minutes a day thinking about all the good things that have happened in your life. Recall the moment and reexperience it. It doesn’t matter that the first time you do it that it takes 10 minutes to think of one thing, persist. Do it each day. If you cannot think of anything good, recall a day when nothing dramatically bad happened.
And finally here is one piece of wisdom that has stood me in extremely good stead, the Two Rules For Happy Living. You may very well find it the most valuable tip here.
Lastly, look for someone else to help.
I know that’s a lot I have given you to do. Hopefully you will be inspired to tackle of it what you can. You’ll soon find yourself motoring though the task list as you build up a head of steam.
And if you get stuck, reach out and ask for help. I heard that a being is only as valuable as he helps and I try to be as valuable as I can. In fact, I am a serial helper.
Make yourself a pledge to do this for a month and see how you feel then.