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1. The world is trying to keep you stupid. From bank fees to interest rates to miracle diets, people who are not educated are easier to get money from and easier to lead. Educate yourself as much as possible for wealth, independence, and happiness.
2. Do not have faith in institutions to educate you. By the time they build the curriculum, it’s likely that the system is outdated– sometimes utterly broken. You both learn and get respect from people worth getting it from by leading and doing, not by following.
3. Read as much as you can. Learn to speed read with high retention. Emerson Spartz taught me this while I was at a Summit Series event. If he reads 2-3 books a week, you can read one.
4. Connect with everyone, all the time. Be genuine about it. Learn to find something you like in each person, and then speak to that thing.
5. Don’t waste time being shy. Shyness is the belief that your emotions should be the arbitrators of your decision making process when the opposite is actually true.
6. If you feel weird about something during a relationship, that’s usually what you end up breaking up over.
7. Have as much contact as possible with older people. Personally, I met people at Podcamps. My friend Greg, at the age of 13, met his first future employer sitting next to him on a plane. The reason this is so valuable is because people your age don’t usually have the decision-making ability to help you very much. Also they know almost everything you will learn later, so ask them.
8. Find people that are cooler than you and hang out with them too. This and the corollary are both important: “don’t attempt to be average inside your group. Continuously attempt to be cooler than them (by doing cooler things, being more laid back, accepting, ambitious, etc.).”
9. You will become more conservative over time. This is just a fact. Those you surround yourself with create a kind of “bubble” that pushes you to support the status quo. For this reason, you need to do your craziest stuff NOW. Later on, you’ll become too afraid. Trust me.
10. Reduce all expenses as much as possible. I mean it. This creates a safety net that will allow you to do the crazier shit I mentioned above.
11. Instead of getting status through objects (which provide only temporary boosts), do it through experiences. In other words, a trip to Paris is a better choice than a new wardrobe. Studies show this also boosts happiness.
12. While you are living on the cheap, solve the money problem. Use the internet, because it’s like a cool little machine that helps you do your bidding. If you are currently living paycheck to paycheck, extend that to three weeks instead of two. Then, as you get better, you can think a month ahead, then three months, then six, and finally a year ahead. (The goal is to get to a point where you are thinking 5 years ahead.)
13. Learn to program.
14. Get a six-pack (or get thin, whatever your goal is) while you are young. Your hormones are in a better place to help you do this at a younger age. Don’t waste this opportunity, trust me.
15. Learn to cook. This will make everything much easier and it turns food from a chore + expensive habit into a pleasant + frugal one. I’m a big Jamie Oliver fan, but whatever you like is fine.
16. Sleep well. This and cooking will help with the six pack. If you think “I can sleep when I’m dead” or “I have too much to do to sleep,” I have news for you: you are INEFFICIENT, and sleep deprivation isn’t helping.
17. Get a reminder app for everything. Do not trust your own brain for your memory. Do not trust it for what you “feel like” you should be doing. Trust only the reminder app. I use RE.minder and Action Method.
18. Choose something huge to do, as well as allowing the waves of opportunity to help you along. If you don’t set goals, some stuff may happen, but if you do choose, lots more will.
19. Get known for one thing. Spend like 5 years doing it instead of flopping around all over the place. If you want to shift afterwards, go ahead. Like I said, choose something.
20. Don’t try to “fix” anyone. Instead, look for someone who isn’t broken.
Many people have a vested interest in having you believe things that are not true. Do not accept what is not real to you, no matter from whom it comes.
Most people don’t like failing more than they do like succeeding.
Any time you do something new you are likely to fail at it.
Competence, or success, at something requires being prepared to do the thing repeatedly and fail at it often, each time changing what you observe did not work, until such time as you learn the skills required to attain mastery of it.
Success only comes about by persisting through failures.
Fear of failure is the death of success.
By holding on to a fear of failure you are aborting success before it is born.
Destroy your fear of failure for the murderer it is.
Embrace failure as a necessary learning process to accomplish success.
There is also the fact that it is a numbers game. Not everyone is a willing receipt point for whatever your message you are trying to communicate.
Give you an example. I fail far, far, far more often than I succeed in my purpose of helping others live a healthier life. Far more people say “No.” than “Yes” when I offer them my accumulated research notes on how to live the healthiest life.
What keeps me going is the wins I have when somebody reads my book and gets mileage from it. Yesterday I had feedback from three such people. Here’s the SMS I received from one of them.
“Tom I just wanted to let you know I have been reading your book almost every day and the wealth of information you have collected is astounding. I just wanted to say thanks thanks thanks so much for putting something like this together. I have already decided that I am going to read it again once I’m finished because there is so much to take in. Job well done Tom, your family must be very proud.”
One definition of success is preparedness to fail at something until you learn what it takes to be successful at it. This is why Steve Jobs recommended you pick a career with passion. Your passion is what will help you over the failures.
What was it they said about Edison? He failed 10,000 time to invent the electric light. He had a different viewpoint. He said he found 10,000 ways it did not work.
My recommendation to you is to apply this to your life. Pick one thing at which you would really like to be more competent and start acquiring the necessary skills. Focus your mind on being perfect at it.
It may take getting some help from someone already good at it who can critique your actions from an exterior viewpoint. But be sure to pick a coach who has done what you are trying to do. All too often people become prey to the naysayers who have never done it.
If you don’t know where your passion lies, give me a call. I may be able to help.
If you’d like to learn a bunch of ways to live a healthier life, read my book. http://www.defeatdegenerativedisease.com
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Great track showcasing talent from all over the world. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pN-U5aE6Rog
So are you!
You are somebody!
Somebody to be reckoned with.
You have purpose, intelligence, drive, passion
Even if you are not yet manifesting your full abilities, you have them..
NOW is the time to recognise, harness and maximize your talents for the greater good.
The world desperately needs more good people doing more good works right now.
If you don’t know your calling, take some time out and identify it.
If you can’t identify your basic purpose in life, contact me. I can help.
If you already know your calling, ask yourself the following questions:
What could I do to double or quadruple my present level of production?
How could I get my message to 5 times the present number of people who receive it?
How could I attain my 5 year target in one year?