Coming Home
A friend posted: Years ago I learned something from Brené Brown that I still use every single day:
When you get home to your spouse/kids/dog etc..
Before you open the door
Put a smile on your face!
It doesn’t matter how your day went. Or what you’re doing next. Or if you’re starving.
For 30 seconds, at least pretend that you’re elated to see them.
Make them feel like you were looking forward to getting back home.
After all, they’re your favorite people in the whole world. I hope.
Now, I know what you’re thinking: “That seems like a cheesy, tiny thing, man. Hardly an earth-shattering revelation.”
But your #attitude sets the tone for the rest of the evening within 15 seconds of walking in the door.
So really, it’s not tiny at all. It’s a huge deal.
Because you come home every day. And the things you do every day grind on you.
Jordan Peterson says if you can fix 25 little things like “coming home,” you will have an extraordinary life.
Taking your family to Disneyland is insignificant.
Your kid’s expensive birthday party will be forgotten within weeks.
Coming home?
That’s your whole life. Fix it.
Start today.
Make The Nuremberg Code Great Again
On Bringing Order
I Don’t Owe You
You
Especially for the Truth Warriors!
May your amour be ever strong,
May your voice outlast long,
May your courage never tire,
And your spirit soar ever higher.
Changes As You Age
I asked a friend who has crossed 70 and is heading towards 80 what sort of changes she is feeling in herself. She sent me the following:
1 – After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.
2 – I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.
3 – I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.
4 – I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.
5 – I stopped telling the elderly that they’ve already narrated that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.
6 – I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.
7 – I give compliments freely and generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say “Thank You.”
8 – I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.
9 – I walk away from people who don’t value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.
10 – I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.
11 – I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.
12 – I have learned that it’s better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.
13 – I have learned to live each day as if it’s the last. After all, it might be the last.
14 – I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!
Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can’t we practice this at any stage and age?
The Undeniability of 70
A friend writes:
This month, I turn 70 years of age. This seems an undeniable milestone in a variety of ways.
Senior Citizenship: It seems undeniable at this point that I am a senior citizen. No matter how vigorous I have felt, no matter how insouciantly I insisted on overlooking the aging process, well, there it is, staring me in the face.
Seventy is an undeniable marker of advanced age in general. When you were younger and you observed a person who was 70 years old, didn’t you automatically and undeniably categorize them as old? I did and I don’t mind this categorization now.
Survivability: It seems to me that being 70 also carries with it an undeniability of survivability. Sadly, I have already lost several people dear to me who were younger than I am now. For whatever reason, I have outlasted them. I am appreciative of my own efforts to sustain good health and grateful for the contributions of those who have helped me.
Satisfaction: I am very satisfied with my life. That doesn’t mean I have accomplished every goal; I haven’t. But the most important matters have turned out well. My son is intelligent, successful and married to a woman I adore. I have cherished friends and many acquaintances I value. I have worked as a professional writer for more than a decade, an occupation I enjoy very much. I am still nimble mentally and fairly nimble physically. I have recovered a relationship with my long-lost sister and uncle. There are points I could grumble about but it’s undeniable that on the whole, I am satisfied with the life I have led. At this age, that’s a good feeling!
Contributions: I have spent many years of this life in pursuit of a better world for all. As a result of a rather one-sided approach to this solution, I may have neglected my own needs more than I should. But I don’t regret an instant of those years. They were years of camaraderie accompanied by a sense of progress and dedication to worthy goals. In my own universe, the value of all those years is undeniable.
Future: My perception of a valuable and useful future is also undeniable. Seventy is not an age for slowing down. Yes, the body needs more maintenance and attention than it did at fifty or sixty. But I still have the sensation that a rich and rewarding future awaits me.
Agelessness: How many times have you heard someone say they were a teenager in a senior citizen’s body or words to that effect? Arriving at this age confirms the truth of agelessness. While the body ages with the march of time, our viewpoints and attitudes do not need to age. We only need to grow in wisdom, perspective and experience. Agelessness is undeniable unless a person chooses to deny it.
This milestone is cherished above the sixty-nine previous anniversaries for all these reasons! It seems important at this moment to pause and reflect on the life I have lived and its qualities and quantities. I’m happy with my choices. Going forward, there are no guarantees but it is my intention to continue pursuing my goals and enjoying my friendships to the maximum degree possible. I am happy to include all my In-Real-Life and Online Friends in my future.
Maybe This Isn’t For Me
Rise To Wise And Share The Truth
My purpose is to understand.
My secondary purpose is to raise others to a higher level of awareness.
We can only be totally free when all are aware and free.
Keep spreading the truth. It will extinguish the lies.