Confessions of a Steward — Chicken Familiarity

Joel Salatin Chicken Familiarity

Thinking like an animal is not always easy, especially if you’re trying to think like a chicken. In this article, I want to dive into one of the single biggest tensions in raising farmstead egg-laying chickens, and it all stems from chicken psychology.

Like all animals, chickens love routine. Temple Grandin, maven of animal psychology, points out that animals live only in the moment. Yes, they have memory, but they have no datebook. They never think about what they need to do tomorrow.

Everything is about instant gratification. No chicken ever said to her friends, “That hen is kind of small and timid; let’s let her have first go at the feeder, and the rest of us ladies will join her later.” You’ll never see that happen. Henpecked is a real thing. Sometimes they eat each other. Animals always eat dessert first, they are all bullies, and they don’t like change.

Temple Grandin says chickens live so much in the moment that they notice the color of your hat. They notice what kind of clothes you’re wearing and your facial demeanor. Let it be established once and for all: chickens like routine. They don’t like different. To be sure, they like chasing down worms in different locations, but they’re not thinking about their location; they’re just eating worms. The moment is all that matters. While chasing down worms, the hen may have no idea she just traversed a hundred yards. Sometimes they look up with a lost look. Most of the time, they want to be where they are accustomed.

What that means is that laying hens want a secure home. They don’t want you to change coops on them. They want to sleep in the same spot every night. They want to lay eggs in the same place every day. Don’t confuse routine with discovery. Chickens have unlimited time to scope out new and interesting places. That’s part of their routine, just like a goat’s routine is trying to figure out a more clever way to escape.

Keep reading: https://news.gab.com/2023/11/confessions-of-a-steward-chicken-familiarity/

Parenting Tips

“In need of improvement” or “talks to much” or “could do better listening”. How many times have we heard this growing up or now as parents? Why do we continue to do this? What is the point?

Well maybe I cannot wave a wand a change a system that has been genned into our society since the 1800’s but maybe by taking new approaches the family can regain strength to build confident young leaders for the future that comes.

Here’s an idea I had. I remember going through times when I was told these phrases about my children. I panicked trying to get them to fit in, do better and ultimately this created stress and upsets in the households.

I wish someone could have mentored me as a mother with the knowledge I have now.

A simple exercise:
1) Sit down and ask your child what they feel is their biggest strengths. Communicate this concept in a way that they can answer the question. Take note of these strengths.

2) Then find out what they feel they are running into trouble with. This can be subjects in school, social problems or anything under the sun, moon or stars that is real to the child.

3) Next focus on validating the rightness of the child. Sometimes schooling can get parents focusing on what is wrong and what needs improvement. What if your child doesn’t want to improve in the areas being advised?

4) As you focus on what is right and validate the strengths with your child the bond between you both will become stronger.

5) Problem solve, now you can take a look at what improvements need to be made to help your child succeed.

When my son was really young, he hated having to do roll call in the classroom. He would disrupt the teacher at all costs. This was a problem. So, at home we would place his stuffed animals and toys like a classroom and I would have him do roll call.

Sometimes I would throw the toys like they are disrupting the classroom so that they would not listen to him. He would begin to get frustrated. Then we would problem solve. He would start to see how to be able to be there during roll call.

There were many other exercises we did. Most of them I just made up to create a situation where he could be the cause point in his life. The goal was to help him gain the ability he needed towards the goal he wanted.

L, Sunny

Grief Groceries

Grief Groceries

Some great advice for those who wish to help someone struggling!

Grief Groceries!

I saw this letter today- as a funeral directors son, I have been around this for years. This is some of the best advice I have ever seen.

“Hey there, Thanks for writing. I’m really glad your friend has you in her life.

I get it. Grief is a funny thing. It’s the time in our life when we most need help, and also the time when asking for help is so hard. Not because we are ashamed to ask for help, although that happens sometimes too. But mostly because our brain just sort of shuts down.

When my Dad died, I looked functional. But I wasn’t OK. Not at all. And when the news got out, the ton of people flooding me with calls, texts, and DM’s was overwhelming. I really couldn’t function. I sat on the swing in our yard and just stared into space.

People called and asked what they could do to help. I had no idea.

“Well, anything you need at all, let me know, OK?”
“OK”.

They hung up. I stared into space some more.

I had no idea what to do. What I needed. I didn’t even know what to ask for.

Then a friend sent a text. This friend had met Dad once but didn’t really know him. But still, she knew I was hurting. I saw who it was and almost put the phone down without reading the text, but I saw the message and it stopped me:

Will you be home at 8:30 tonight?

What’s weird is this friend lives 12 hours away from me.

Yes, I replied.

“K.”

10 minutes later, she said, “Instacart will be there at 8:30. Open the door for them.”

“What?”

“Grief Groceries.!!”

When Instacart showed up, they put two large bags of groceries on my porch. Frozen pizzas. Ice cream. Oreo cookies. Tinned soup. Stouffer’s lasagna. A gallon of milk. Like that. Things I could heat up if I needed a meal, or pig out on if I needed fat and sugar.

Sometimes, you just need to eat half a box of Oreos.
Notice she didn’t ask if I needed any food. I would have said no. She just asked if I would be home.

Grief groceries.

Another friend, who lives out of town, asked Renee to name a restaurant near our house where we like to eat. There is a local chain near our house that is sort of a deli. When we eat supper there, we spend about $25. Renee told her the name of the place.

An hour later, there was a gift card in my inbox for $250. Yes, that is a lot of money, and I understand not everyone can do that. But the wonderful thing was that because it was enough for multiple meals, we didn’t try to save it for “the right time”. We ate there that night, and take out from there several times a week for the next month on nights when I just didn’t have the spoons to cook.

Both of those gift-givers knew something I didn’t know – that when you are grieving, you don’t want to make decisions. No, that’s not quite it: You can’t make decisions. You hit decision fatigue really fast.

So, I guess what I’m saying is, don’t ask grieving people to make big choices or decisions. “How can I help” is a big choice. But “Can I take the kids this afternoon so you can have some time to yourself” is a much smaller one. “Will you be home tonight?” is a small choice. “What restaurant do you like” is a small decision. Just showing up to cut their grass because you noticed it needed cutting is loads better than asking, “Do you want me to cut the grass?” Or, “I’m going to Target. What can I get you while I’m there?” is better than “Can I run any errands for you?”

It won’t always be like this. If you stick around, eventually they will surface and ways to be helpful will make themselves known. But in the first few days, especially, it helps to remove as many decisions from their plate as you can!”

Original Words from: Hugh Hollowell Jr.