Just had a chat to someone about Constructive Impatience. Thought you might get something from it.
\nWe’ve all witnessed destructive impatience. When a person “loses it” over things not happening as fast as they would like or need them to happen. It is conceived by a combination of desire for something and unreal expectation of what it will take to get it, grows with a good dose of resentment and is born of unthinking upset with the lack of the desired result.
\nThere were two wrongnesses I observed in myself when I fell into this trap.
\nThe first was an unrealistic expectation of the amount of time, effort, skill, knowledge or experience it would take to accomplish the objective. And when you start with that, how can you give your self a win and grow in confidence? Quite simply, you cannot.
\nSo I had to learn to better estimate the amount of effort it would take to accomplish the objective.
\nTo give yourself loss after loss, set objectives in time frames that are unrealistic.
\nIf you want to feel 10 feet tall you need to correctly estimate times and efforts and set attainable targets.
\nThe second mistake was allowing myself to get frustrated. What I should have done was to step back and ask some analytical questions that might help. If not this time, at least next time.
\nWhat am I trying to get as a product?
\nWhat am I getting?
\nIf I am not getting the result I am seeking here…
\nWhere was my estimation out?
\nHow could I improve my performance?
\nWhat do I need to change now or the next time I am in a situation like this?
\nWhat piece of technology or wisdom would I need to know and apply to prevent this situation happening again?
\nThen there is also not being impatient enough. Being too content with how things are, despite them being non-optimum. Or being too immersed in the doingness that we forget to step back, take stock and analyse whether or not our actions are yielding the results we seek.
\nRemember, positive change occurs as a direct result of the application of Constructive Impatience.
\nAsk yourself these questions:
\nWhat am I trying to get as a product in each area of my life?
\nWhat am I actually getting?
\nAm I getting the result I am seeking?
\nWhere was my estimation out?
\nHow could I improve my performance?
\nWhat actions and costs can I shed that do not directly and significantly contribute to the objective.
\nWhat do I need to change or improve to quadruple my production?
\nWhat would need to occur for me to ten times my production?
\nWhat do I do and only I can do that gets the results I am getting?
\nWhat tasks would I need to delegate or outsource?
\nWhat are the principle barriers blocking my progress?
\nWhat are two solutions to each barrier?
\nWhat piece of technology or wisdom would I need to know and apply to move the existing scene closer to my goal?
\nDid you answer them?
\nIf not, set a time to answer them and print this out and put it aside till then.
\nMay you flourish and prosper!
\nTom Grimshaw<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Just had a chat to someone about Constructive Impatience. Thought you might get something from it. We’ve all witnessed destructive impatience. When a person “loses it” over things not happening as fast as they would like or need them to happen. It is conceived by a combination of desire for something and unreal expectation of … <\/p>\n