{"id":59706,"date":"2025-05-13T10:55:43","date_gmt":"2025-05-13T00:55:43","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/?p=59706"},"modified":"2025-05-13T10:55:43","modified_gmt":"2025-05-13T00:55:43","slug":"dont-cause-permanent-harm-over-a-temporary-state-of-mind","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/?p=59706","title":{"rendered":"Don&#8217;t Cause Permanent Harm Over A Temporary State Of Mind"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-59707\" src=\"https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Brittany_Traynor.jpg\" alt=\"Brittany Traynor\" width=\"526\" height=\"526\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Brittany_Traynor.jpg 526w, https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Brittany_Traynor-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Brittany_Traynor-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.tomgrimshaw.com\/tomsblog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/Brittany_Traynor-100x100.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 526px) 100vw, 526px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&#8220;My feelings of being in the wrong body started when I was a toddler. I hated girl toys and I only wanted to play with boys, I had short hair and dressed myself like a boy. I didn&#8217;t understand other girls my age so I felt out of place.<\/p>\n<p>When someone would mistake me for a boy I would feel so good, much to the chagrin of my older sister who would quickly correct them and exclaim, &#8220;that&#8217;s my SISTER.&#8221; At 4 I worked up the courage to ask my mom, &#8220;Does God make mistakes, because I think I was supposed to be born a boy?&#8221; My mother replied, &#8220;No God doesn&#8217;t ever make mistakes, he made you exactly the way you&#8217;re supposed to be, a beautiful little girl.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>And that was that. I didn&#8217;t have any more delusions because my mom cleared it up for me right then and there. Don&#8217;t get me wrong I still didn&#8217;t like my body and dreaded growing breasts one day, but I didn&#8217;t have to question if there was something wrong with me. I was allowed time to grow up, and once I hit puberty I not only felt like I was in the right body, but I became a girly girl!<\/p>\n<p>If I was born in our society today I know I would have been &#8220;affirmed&#8221; by my teachers and started on a cascade of interventions that would have left me infertile, mutilated and without the husband and two beautiful children that I have today.<br \/>\nOur kids don&#8217;t need to be socially or medically transitioned. They need to be left alone, and they need time to grow up.&#8221; ~ Brittany Traynor<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;My feelings of being in the wrong body started when I was a toddler. I hated girl toys and I only wanted to play with boys, I had short hair and dressed myself like a boy. I didn&#8217;t understand other girls my age so I felt out of place. 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